Back, Back like I Never Left!!

Back, Back like I Never Left!!

I’ve missed you all soooo much!! (Singin) But I’m back like I neva left

So I had to take a step back from posting. I’ve been writing, but just haven’t been posting. I know, I know that seems counterproductive considering this is a blog, but I’m running a one-woman show and I got chilrens to care for LOL. 


Soooo let me catch you up!

At the end of August, the children started back to school and although their homeschool center is open, I decided that virtual schooling would be best for the rest of the year. In the past, I’ve done the homeschooling by my lonesome but CHILE I was NOT about to take on that burden alone in this season of my life. Plus, I needed some time to focus on me during the day and that is hard to do when you are cooking, cleaning, schooling, working, and trying not to have an absolute meltdown because 5 little humans are all learning at the same time! Kudos to the moms out there who are doing it and maintaining, but as for me and my house we shall outsource this task. Amen? Amen.

 

Also, I was honored to participate in my first webinar! Whoop, Whoop! The experience was great but OH THE ENEMY TRIED IT! So right before I was supposed to logon, my desktop decided it didn’t want to cooperate. In turn, I had to scrap Plan A and figure out a Plan B with minutes to spare! I grabbed my laptop and put it on my desk in front of my desktop. The desktop screen doubled as extra lighting and ya girl was good to go. Talk about a close call! Unfortunately, while watching the replay I realized there was this white glow on my face which made my lips look ashy! HAHAHA Oh Well.

 

It was interesting, to say the least, but I logged in on time and the Lord had His way and that was all that mattered! 

 

If I could be honest, mentally I needed to take a step back. Typically I’m always considered the “strong friend”, but I didn’t feel very strong. I found myself struggling to show up for myself again. This stemmed from me always feeling like I needed to do all the things. My plate always seems so full, and the Lord had to remind me that I was never meant to bear this load on my own. 

 

Sometimes as mothers, we feel like we need to do everything, or nothing would ever get done. Many of us really need to stop this faulty way of thinking. It is mentally, emotionally, and physically draining. 

 

How can you possibly do all the things when you haven’t taken the time to take care of you?! 

 

It doesn’t work. 

 

You have to begin to ask yourself, where does this behavior stem from? Was it what I saw growing up? Am I taking on other people’s expectations of me, while ignoring my own needs? Am I afraid to relinquish control?

 

For me it was pressure.

 

It was the pressure of feeling like, how am I going to make this all work?

 

After trying to figure it out on my own and some complaining, God kindly checked me. 

 

He said, “There is no possible way that you could do all that I called you to do without My help! How vain is it to set out to accomplish My will, your way? In your strength, on your time. Has it worked? No, it hasn’t.

 

Proverbs 3:5(AMP)

Trust in and rely confidently on the Lord with all your heart

And do not rely on your own insight or understanding.

 

Basically, He summed everything up with keeping your focus on me. Well, He sure told me…but oh the FREEDOM. Once I was able to clearly see how far I was digging myself into a hole of complaints, I was able to shift my focus back to God. 

 

Sometimes unplugging is necessary, but often we don’t really know how nor where to start. Sometimes we can’t even identify when we need to, but we do recognize something is off. 

 

Hear me…reach out. Don’t be afraid of someone judging you. Don’t be too prideful or embarrassed to admit that you’re not okay. For this reason, I do what I do. No one should have to do life alone. The truth of the matter is many moms lack the support they truly need, for this reason, I became a life coach. 

 

Let me support you. If you’re ready to push past that stuck place you’ve been in, sign up for a Heart2HEaRt session today.

Idolizing the Promise

Idolizing the Promise

HEY BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE!!

I hope you all have been absolutely amazing despite this pandemic, cause CHILE WHEW all the information, fearmongering and decisions to make regarding remote schooling, jobs, resources FEELS like a lot!

I want to encourage you all to just take a step back and weigh your pros and cons, listen to the voice of God, and just make a decision. 

On Monday I did a Live that I was less than enthused about (facepalm), I should have deleted it but the reality is that real life looks like that.

 Trusting GOD without knowing the next steps but holding on to a promise given LOOKS and feels like that sometimes. Obedience is still necessary, your circumstances don’t change God’s stance on what He requires of us when He wills to do tremendous things in our lives. 

1 Cor 2:9

But as it is written:

“Eye has not seen, nor ear heard,
Nor have entered into the heart of man
The things which God has prepared for those who love Him.”

Sometimes it’s so easy to get thrown off track when God is doing something new because that place that your treading through feels UNCOMFORTABLE. You don’t know what to expect, the testing feels hard. Every time you feel like you’re making headway something comes along and pushes you back. It’s like COME ON, is all of this necessary God?

Short answer. 

It is.

James 1:2-4

My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, 3 knowing that the testing of your faith produces [a]patience. 4 But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be [b]perfect and complete, lacking nothing.

Before you come into the fullness of some of God’s promises He often will prepare you to step into that place making sure you are equipped to maintain and steward what He’s entrusting you with well. A perfect example of this is in the book of Genesis. So check it, Abraham and his wife Sarah desired a child but she was barren. God gave him the promise of a son. YEARS passed(approximately 25 years) but they were old! 

God was so serious, remember He doesn’t and CANNOT lie.

Sarah and Abraham did try to take the matter into their own hands to make it happen by bringing in a third party. He did have a son by Hagar but God was like Nah fam, that’s not the kid I promised. After that foolish move, it would be another 14 years before their promised son would actually be born. Abraham’s faith was tested even further when God told him to sacrifice his son. Without hesitation, Abraham went to do what God asked of him. He was confident though. Regardless of what he would have to do, He had faith in God that regardless he would return with his son! Abraham got to the point where he was just about to kill him and God stopped him. Now, this probably sounds crazy but God was testing his faithfulness.

Would Abraham have more faith in the promise vs keeping his focus and hope in God?

We know from reading the text that He doesn’t, but how many of us can say that our hope will remain in God as we begin to walk in the promise?

What has God promised you that you are waiting for?

What promise or promises are you currently walking in?

Most importantly what is your faith in?

What is your hope in?

 

If Abraham would have lost what he treasured the most, would he have still been solid?

Would you still be solid?

Exodus 20:3

3 “You shall have no other gods before Me.

 

Anything that takes up your time, attention, the absolute focus of your life becomes your god. It becomes your idol. Sometimes we don’t even realize that the things that are common to our lives: marriages, children, jobs, money, social media, food take our focus and devotion away from God. We get caught up and consumed in the things that we’ve made a priority. 

What has been your priority and focus lately?

Sometimes we’re fully aware of a disconnect but we may not be able to pinpoint where it occurs in our lives. 

Heart 2 HEaRt sessions are designed to help you connect those dots. Book your session today so we can uncover those areas holding you back from growth, clarity, and freedom!

The Process: Depleted

The Process: Depleted

Hey, my beautiful people!!

 

I am so thankful that you all have been rocking out with me while I’ve been covering “The Process” with you all.

For those of you who are new to the blog, WELCOME!!

 

A bit about “The Process”, basically it’s the making of who you were created to be in the Lord and how He takes you through “the process” of uprooting, rearranging, and rebuilding who you really were created to be rather than allowing you to continuously walk in who you’ve been settling for because of your trauma.

 

Every Monday, I go live on Facebook and discuss what will be live on the blog and this Monday past was no exception even though I almost did not lol!

 

Obedience over Emotions though so your girl did what she was instructed to do. You can catch the replay here.

 

RECAP(in order this time):

 

  1. Coming to Terms: So the very first thing God does in this journey of walking in freedom is uncovering the problem and exposing its root.
  2. Trust: The second thing we must do is trust God into the deep broken places that trauma helped shatter.
  3. Give Him the Pieces: Third, we must be willing to give God the pieces of our mess. God can do more with the pieces of our beautifully flawed life than we ever could. Our attempt to put ourselves back together will never compare to the beautiful masterpiece that God ALREADY saw from the BEGINNING.
  4. Submission: Fourth you must fully surrender. Basically saying God I had enough of trying to do it my way, now I’m gonna trust you. By doing this you are saying yes and letting God lead to do it His way. By submitting you are saying… everything you have… everything you are… all of your plans, you’re going to submit them to Him and get underneath His mission.
  5. Depletion: Pouring yourself out.

At no point is ANY of this easy and most assuredly you indeed have a choice on whether you want to go through any of this or not. Jesus gives us the freedom to refuse.

 

My question to you, however, is what would it cost you next?

Proverbs 4:23 KJV

23 Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.

Every time you make a decision to hold on to the pain, brokenness, unforgiveness, anger, bitterness, fear, etc. a piece of you shatters a bit more and your heart is further troubled. All of this is at the expense of your peace, self-worth, value, destiny, identity, and purpose.

 

Matthew 11:28-29 TPT

28 “Are you weary, carrying a heavy burden? Then come to me.[a] I will refresh your life, for I am your oasis.[b] 29 Simply join your life with mine.[c] Learn my ways and you’ll discover that I’m gentle,[d] humble, easy to please. You will find refreshment and rest in me.[e]

In hindsight is it worth it?

 

I admonish you to be depleted.

 

Deplete: to empty of a principal substance

 

The Latin root word deplet means EMPTIED OUT.

 

God wants you to empty yourself out before Him, so you can be healed, whole, and completely FREE.

 

God’s desire is for you to TRY HIM. Stop taking your situation back into your own hands. You’ve tried it your way and you didn’t get far. You built within the confines of a box He never put you in. (This was a part of the Word He gave me on Monday, watch the full word here)

Pour yourself out. Fully DEPLETED. Be FREE.

 

The Process: There Ain’t No Plan B

The Process: There Ain’t No Plan B

So for the last couple of weeks, I’ve been going over “The Process”. I did a live on Monday about submission titled, “There Ain’t No Plan B”, you can catch it here. Initially (like most time) when I get on my live, I have no idea what the Lord is gonna say but He came with some FIRE!!

Whew!

On this journey in becoming who God has created you to be it doesn’t come with ease… there’s some pressing that occurs which almost feels unbearable. I don’t know why some people feel this road is easy or a crutch to reality. If anything this road is full of hardship, laced with HOPE

The Lord allows us to see that although we have the liberty to do whatever it is that we want to do, He illuminates the difference between doing it blindly and doing it with the revelation that: 

  1. We are in a very real spiritual battle whether we realize it or not.
  2. Every action has a reaction or consequence.
  3. Everything that we try and we put together with our own hands and with our own intellect is very limited compared to what God can do with a simple yes from us.

In my live on Monday, I was talking a little bit about Elijah. The Lord provided for Elijah at the Brook. He literally provided just as much as he needed in the morning and just as much as he needed the evening. Elijah was a Prophet of God and there were some things that he had to endure in his process. There were some pressing, molding, and shaping that God had to do with him. There was one instance where Elijah literally said to God, I’m the only one out here that’s not compromised, and doing what you want me to do. 

God checked him real quick. He showed him that although He’d been moving in mighty ways, He was also working behind the scenes quietly.

How often are we faced with issues and we feel like we’re the only ones going through?

It seems like everybody around us is flourishing, flourishing in relationships, flourishing in business, being dope moms, etc, but then you look at yourself and you’re like, what am I doing? I don’t understand. Why haven’t I gotten to a different place by now? The feeling is like at this point in your journey, you’re the only one going through it like that. 

The reality is you’re not the only one. 

Is your situation unique to you? Yes. 

However, your situation, circumstances, tests, trials, and tribulations that you are facing are all necessary to mold you, shape you, and build your character which is needed for your next level. We often pray and ask God for specific things but we are often unprepared to step into the places that we’re asking God to bring us. Unprepared stepping into the blessings that we’ve been praying about or we’ve been thinking about, all while we are trying to manifest it on our own.

This is where submission and surrender come in.

There is absolutely no way for you to step into who you have been created to be until you decide that what you’re doing will never even touch just a taste of what God has in store for you.

1 Corinthians 2:9 New King James Version (NKJV)

9 But as it is written:

“Eye has not seen, nor ear heard,

Nor have entered into the heart of man

The things which God has prepared for those who love Him.”

See typically we desire things that we have seen other people with, things that are common and clearly attainable. Plainly put things that do not go beyond our control. 

In actuality, there are some things that God must birth in your heart. Grandiose ideas that seem impossible! See, society imposes these limitations so that we are conditioned to think we have to achieve a said goal by this age, make such and such happen only if you do “that”. We limit ourselves in certain realms and spheres of influence that God wants to raise us up in because we think that it has to be done a certain way, needs to look like something someone else did, needs to sound like “this” and the reality is that we’re not created to fit in. 

Submission– Yield. Christian submission is to voluntarily yield in love and consider the needs of another more important than one’s own. 

Simply put surrender is basically saying God I had enough of trying to do it my way now I’m gonna trust you, saying yes and letting you led me in doing it your way. By submitting myself to you… everything I have… everything I am… all of my plans, I’m going to submit them to you and get underneath your mission.

Mark 16 New King James Version (NKJV)

The Great Commission

14 Later He appeared to the eleven as they sat at the table; and He rebuked their unbelief and hardness of heart, because they did not believe those who had seen Him after He had risen. 15 And He said to them, “Go into all the world and preach the gospel to every creature. 16 He who believes and is baptized will be saved; but he who does not believe will be condemned. 17 And these signs will follow those who believe: In My name they will cast out demons; they will speak with new tongues; 18 they will take up serpents; and if they drink anything deadly, it will by no means hurt them; they will lay hands on the sick, and they will recover.”

I believe many of us think fulfilling this commission looks like being in a pulpit preaching the gospel, but the reality is,

FORGET YOUR PULPIT.

This pandemic has shown us that God can not be confined to nobodies building!! 

God is unique. He’s very very creative, no two people will spread the gospel of Jesus Christ the same way. Everybody has a uniqueness about them and when you become a Christian that doesn’t mean that that uniqueness stops, that you have to die on the inside and put yourself in a box and not be who you were created to be. The false idea that you can’t be “yourself” is often birthed through traumatic events in our past. These events have shaped our minds into accepting or settling for who we think we are based on past wounds that have occurred or have been inflicted on us over the years.

Think of your heart like a piece of glass… every time an issue arises, an offense occurs, or a heart is inflicted with pain, it begins to crack into pieces. We then begin to filter life through those broken pieces. Those pieces comprise our perspective. Through a broken perspective, how can you view life through a healthy filter? 

You’ve been settling because you’ve carried it for so long, and it is tearing you apart.

What if I told you that you don’t have to stay that way?

What if I told you partnering with God could change your whole life, greater than what you’ve been settling for?

I launched Heart 2 HEaRt because I decided to say yes to God and partner with him to do something that He saw in me that I didn’t necessarily see in myself.

Talking is my thing and thoroughly enjoying helping people and solving problems, but I couldn’t see past who I had settled into being to see who He was confident that I was. 

How many of you have felt like there’s more to this life than what you’ve been settling for, you just are unsure of how to uncover what that is?

Don’t go another 5 -10 years not knowing.

Schedule your Heart 2 HEaRt session today, so you can heal and get free.

The Process: Coming To Terms

The Process: Coming To Terms

So lately I realized that more often than not when I am ministering to someone that the message is typically for me too. Sometimes it’s hard for me to recognize, so I won’t think twice about it and then there are times where it’s blatant and undeniable!

 

For the past few blog posts, we’ve been talking about the process of becoming who God has called us to be. I haven’t presented the process in order, I’ve been tackling the topic as the Lord has given them to me to cover. If you haven’t seen my recent live Heart 2 HEaRt on Monday, go check it out here

In this week’s coverage of “The Process”, I want to talk about actually coming to terms with the fact that there is indeed a problem. So the very first thing God does in this journey of walking in freedom is uncovering the problem and exposing its root. Many believers struggle with walking in true freedom because they refuse to come to terms with the fact that there is a problem that needs to be properly dealt with. 

 

Too often we become comfortable with what we deem as our “norm” because it is familiar to us and we have learned how to control how we deal with and respond to it. We’ve learned how to cope with our circumstances and have even built walls around our hearts to create a defense against any more pain this particular issue may potentially cause. 

 

Understandably so because who wants to face the ugliness of the weight that they’ve been carrying for so long?

 

Why would you? You’ve learned how to dress it up, ignore it, make it palatable. How dare someone try to make you deal with it!!

 

Well, how dare you not want to be free?

 

2 Cor 3:17(AMP)

17 Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is liberty [emancipation from bondage, true freedom].

 

God’s perfect plan for your life includes freedom. 

 

True freedom. 

 

Freedom past the point of your comfort. 

 

We often spend a long time learning how to hide our pain. We mask the pain just enough for us to remain comfortable, thus creating a sustainable sense of normalcy.

 

5 Ways You Avoid True Freedom:

 

  1. Denial. You deny the issue is a problem.
  2. Refusal. You refuse to talk about the issue. 
  3. Avoidance. You avoid going into prayer, so God won’t talk to you about the issue.
  4. Running. You run. You run from intimate relationships, you run from commitment, you run from situations you won’t be able to control.
  5. Defensiveness. You become defensive when there is an implication that you haven’t truly healed from what has caused you pain.

 

Salvation is a free and perfect gift to yo. It is available to everyone who wants to walk in true freedom. At the core of salvation are freedom and intimacy.

God enjoys an intimate relationship with His children. Although He is all-knowing, He wants us to bring all the things that weigh heavy on our hearts to Him. Now you’re probably thinking, well if God already knows everything, then why should I have to talk about it? 

 

Well, the question I have for you is, why would anyone want to be in a relationship with someone who refuses to communicate?

Better yet, how could someone be in a relationship with an individual that only wants to communicate what they are comfortable with Especially when that thing they are covering is hindering their intimacy?

 

Aight Biblical account time. Now this one may seem off-topic but go with me for a minute LOL.

 

So the other day I was convicted. The Lord was low key checking me about seeking Him for direction. So I say well let me read my Bible. I pick up my Bible and the subtitle that caught my eye was, “Balaam Seeks God’s Direction”. I’m like ok Lord what are You trying to say?

 

Now as I’m reading Numbers 22:7-22, I’m thinking to myself isn’t Balaam an enemy to God? Sure enough upon reading the passage and the footnotes, my thought was correct. The weird part was that as I was reading I was on the verge of tears.

 

 Why in the world would this account bring me to tears? It wasn’t like I saw myself in Balaam(he was a medium and God is against divination), how in the world could this account possibly resonate with me?!

 

Well here’s the thing God told Balaam not to do one thing and then upon Balaam asking God again, He turned around and gave Him the go-ahead. In verse 22 it says that the anger of the Lord was kindled because he went. I’m like, huh?! Didn’t You permit him to go? 

 

2 key things stood out to me in this passage. 

 

  1. God didn’t care anything about the show Balaam was trying to put on for everyone. God was aware of his motives. 
  2. God was in charge. PERIOD.

 

In essence, God used something completely left to get my attention LOL. In the spirit of being transparent, I was avoiding going deep in prayer and needed to fully come to terms with the root of my problem. 

 

In summation, regardless of what I was feeling in my life, I should always remember that God sees my heart. He knows the real reason I’m doing or avoiding something, regardless of how I dress it up for people on the outside looking in, and He is the one who is bigger than anything I am facing so my first response should always be to seek His direction. 

 

What have you been avoiding? The weight of bearing such a burden on your own is cumbersome. Please don’t bear this weight alone, book a Heart 2 HEaRt today and let me help you hear God’s heart concerning your freedom.

The Process: Give Him the Pieces of Your Mess

The Process: Give Him the Pieces of Your Mess

Have you ever saw a kid finger paint? 

Mine have. Typically you have no idea what in the world they’re painting but you call it beautiful anyway. I would dare say it’s not beautiful because of the array of colors but it’s beautiful because it was made with love.

 It was made by your child. 

It turned out to be a beautiful mess.

Mess.

I think many of us would describe ourselves as such. There is something on the inside of us that e feel we are not getting quite right.. 

Some type of “roadblock” trips us up every single time and we sit and wonder what can God do with this? What can He do with all of these messy pieces? I can’t seem to make any sense of it, so how can He? Perhaps you’ve said to yourself, God can indeed fix this but then proceeded to try and figure out how.

Can I tell you something?

 

Trust is NOT figuring it out.

 

Proverbs 3:5

Trust in the Lord with all your heart,

And lean not on your own understanding;

 

When has God ever had to ask anyone to assist Him in handling any situation? He has not. If anything every time we’ve tried to assist God, we fail miserably, and then He has to clean that up too LOL. For example, God promised Abraham and Sarah a son. Looking at all the pieces of their situation, it looked impossible for that to happen. See Sarah was ninety-nine and Abraham was a hundred, she was like who finna have kids this late in the game?!

 

Genesis 18:12-15

12 Therefore Sarah laughed within herself, saying, “After I have grown old, shall I have pleasure, my lord being old also?”

13 And the Lord said to Abraham, “Why did Sarah laugh, saying, ‘Shall I surely bear a child, since I am old?’ 14 Is anything too hard for the Lord? At the appointed time I will return to you, according to the time of life, and Sarah shall have a son.”

15 But Sarah denied it, saying, “I did not laugh,” for she was afraid.

And He said, “No, but you did laugh!”

 

Let’s call a spade a spade. She didn’t believe it was gonna happen. So at some point, while she was waiting she thought it would make sense to assist God by having her husband sleep with her handmaid(insert facepalm). So now a baby was born and seeing how this was Abraham’s first kid, he probably did what every good father would do…be doting and filled with happiness. Unfortunately, this just made Sarah jealous. Jealous to the point she dealt with Hagar harshly, and then eventually sent her and her son away. 

That whole situation screams messy, but God likes the mess. Why? 

Simply put… where there’s a mess, God is willing and able to clean it up. Show up for you like a good and loving Father should, all the while working it out for your good. 

 

Romans 8:28 

28 And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose. 

All you have to do is give Him the pieces to your mess.

 

I’m going to be transparent here. I’ve struggled greatly at giving God all the pieces to my mess because naturally, I’m a problem solver. If someone has a problem, then typically I feel like I have to find a solution. As of late, I realized that type of response isn’t always healthy. 

As a SAHM(Stay at home mom) with 5 children naturally I want to figure it out, so I know we’ll always be good. The thing is there was no way I could figure out an uncommon situation on my own. Most SAHM’s faced with becoming a single parent naturally are told you’re going to have to get a job.

 

Been there. Got two. God checked me BOTH times.

God says to me, “part of being obedient is trusting Me to provide everything you need even when you didn’t know you needed it. It doesn’t need to look like what everyone else is doing. It can be completely out the box, unorthodox, and supernaturally dope. Daughter, I just need you to trust Me even when you can’t see what’s next and everyone else thinks your situation looks crazy. Keep moving.” (This was in real-time and on time too)

 

Maybe you’re a mom who is trying to find her footing while doing this all alone.

Maybe you’ve come to a standstill in your life and need help in piecing together what’s next.

Maybe you’re unsure of what the problem actually is.

Let me do what I do best and help you solve a problem. 

Book a Heart HEaRt session and let’s get to the bottom of it from God’s perspective.