Motherhood

by | May 15, 2020 | Uncategorized | 0 comments

Motherhood.

  • Many of us want it.
  • Many of us experience it. 
  • Many of us enjoy it.

Just about all of us agree that it’s just downright hard, but oh so worth it!

To be honest I think many mothers glamorize motherhood as if it’s some elite society that every woman should be a part of. Now hear me. I am in NO WAY bashing those who love being mothers. I love being a mom! I love my children oh so much, but honestly, the journey to and through motherhood is not an easy one.

Honestly, I had no idea about what to write in this blog post but this topic is one that is near and dear to my heart. 

We see the beautiful babies and stylish baby gear and all the other bells and whistles of motherhood, but rarely is the painful side talked about. 

There are pain and discomfort during gestation.

There is pain during labor.

There is pain during birth.

You will experience pain in recovery.

There is pain during the fourth trimester.

All this pain, so why do we want it so bad? Why do we do it?

We go through it because we want to be unconditionally loved. We go through it because we desire to be someone’s world. We do it because some of us are determined to do what our mothers didn’t do for us. Some of us become mothers because of the idea of family; having our own families are important to us.

Although every woman has her reasons for wanting and becoming a mother, I think there is a bigger one that truly matters.

Purpose.

There is so much purpose in motherhood that I believe some of us do not even realize. Sometimes the pursuit of motherhood is such a selfish pursuit. We only see what we want, how we want it to look and what we want our families to look like etc. 

The reality of the matter is God opens up the womb of a woman with intentionality and purpose. 

1 Samuel 1:2-7 New King James Version (NKJV)

2 And he had two wives: the name of one was Hannah, and the name of the other Peninnah. Peninnah had children, but Hannah had no children. 3 This man went up from his city yearly to worship and sacrifice to the Lord of hosts in Shiloh. Also the two sons of Eli, Hophni and Phinehas, the priests of the Lord, were there. 4 And whenever the time came for Elkanah to make an offering, he would give portions to Peninnah his wife and to all her sons and daughters. 5 But to Hannah he would give a double portion, for he loved Hannah, although the Lord had closed her womb. 6 And her rival also provoked her severely, to make her miserable, because the Lord had closed her womb. 7 So it was, year by year, when she went up to the house of the Lord, that she provoked her; therefore she wept and did not eat.

We see above that Hannah so desperately wanted a child. Her sister Peninah had all these kids year after year and made it her business to rub it in! Her husband was like, am I not enough for you? Like I give you a double portion of what I give Penninah, don’t you know that I love you? None of that mattered because she desired to bear a child. 

There’s something about being a mother that fulfills us in ways that we may not fully understand and believe some of us have a hard time articulating. No words are necessary.

One day while in the temple, Hannah prayed and poured out her heart to God. She was so filled with sorrow that all she could do was pray in her heart, moving only her lips with no sound. Eli (the priest) noticed her and thought she was drunk. She explained to him that she poured out her soul before the Lord regarding this child. Eli told her to go in peace, and that she would bear a son. 

1 Samuel 1:20 New King James Version (NKJV)

20 So it came to pass in the process of time that Hannah conceived and bore a son, and called his name Samuel, saying, “Because I have asked for him from the Lord.”

The prophet Samuel was the last judge to ever judge Israel. He was the last one who would be in a position where he would lead Israel according to what God was saying directly to them. Samuel’s purpose was predetermined before he was formed in his mother’s womb. God couldn’t just let Samuel come at any time, Samuel had to come at his appointed time.

The Lord is very intentional about how he does a thing. He’s also very purposeful in everything He does. Romans 8:28 says, all things work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose. 

We were all created for a purpose. We were all put here on this earth at an appointed time. God knew everything about us before we even existed.

What is your purpose?

In terms of bearing children, we do indeed have the right to choose. Let me ask you this if you knew what or who the person that you carry in your womb was called to do if you knew beforehand what their purpose was would you still choose to abort them?

This is in no way to condemn anyone who has decided in the past to have an abortion because I don’t have a heaven or hell to put you in, I’m not in any way condemning you. I want you to know that nothing that you ever do in your life will ever separate you from the love of God, God loves you and so do I. 

This piece is merely to ask a question and to get people into deeper thought about what many of us have been created for, and I’m not talking about motherhood necessarily, I’m talking about purpose.

OK, so let’s say for the sake of this post that motherhood here is symbolic for whatever it is that you were created to do. How many of us who are mothers naturally would have aborted the very thing that we were purposed for? 

I want you to think about that. 

Think about it in terms of the thing that you know you should be doing, you know you do well, you’ve overcome, but you just haven’t “birthed” yet.

Now earlier I mentioned pain. I mentioned the pain of the journey to becoming a mother, the journey to birth a child and then the pain that you experience even after the birthing process. Some of you might be saying well what does that have to do with what I haven’t done or what I’m supposed to do or what I was purposed for. Well, it has plenty to do with it.

During my first pregnancy, I experienced a loss. I miscarried within the first eight weeks. The loss hit me very hard. It made me regret that I wasn’t more intentional about my health, my attitude, and perhaps taking any steps on my job to prevent such a loss. I look back at it now and I realize that the loss was necessary, because the next time I got pregnant I appreciated it so much more than the first.

How many of you have set out to start a business, better yourself academically, go for that promotion on your job, write a book or take that ministry position? All of us have had the idea or that pressing feeling on the inside to do more, be more, achieve more but then we just settle and abort the whole thing before we even start.

How many of you know that the child birthing process can be a very traumatic experience? 

I remember being told that I had to go in for an emergency C-section during my third pregnancy. Now I was adamant that I did not want to have a C-section at all, but the reality was that my son’s heart rate kept dropping and it wasn’t coming back up no matter what position they moved me in.

 I had a choice. 

I could have been firm on not having a C-section or I could have trusted that God was in control. I didn’t know what would be the outcome, but my son’s life was hanging in the balance. It was either get the emergency surgery or risk him dying. 

When they pulled him out, the cord was wrapped around his neck twice and he was blue. Looking back on that time, I realized I could’ve been so rigid on what I wanted (thinking that this experience was solely mine) that I would have jeopardized his life! Imagine me insisting on pushing and depriving him of oxygen to the point where we could have completely lost him. 

Don’t choke the life out of that thing that you’ve been carrying for so long. 

Many of you have been pregnant for a long time and you have been afraid to go through labor and give birth. Now is the time to give birth before it dies. 

What you are carrying is the answer to a problem that many people have. They are waiting for you to walk in courage, discipline, consistency, and obedience! They are waiting on you to birth and nurture and grow that “baby” into something that can serve people for generations to come.

Please don’t let it die.